Commands That Connect
How to talk to your ADHD child so they actually hear you. A six-step programme with exact scripts you can use tonight.
“I’ve told him a hundred times!”
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You love your child. You’re not a bad parent. But every day feels like the same exhausting battle.
You repeat yourself endlessly
You’ve said “put your shoes on” seven times. They haven’t moved. You end up shouting. They end up crying. Everyone’s miserable by 7:15am.
They “never listen”
It looks like defiance. It feels like disrespect. But their brain genuinely didn’t register your voice over the screen. This isn’t won’t — it’s can’t.
Simple requests become wars
“Get ready for bed” turns into a forty-minute meltdown. You’re exhausted. They’re in tears. The whole house is on edge.
You feel like you’re failing
Other parents seem to manage. Your child is bright but nothing works. You’ve tried everything. The guilt is crushing.
Punishment isn’t working
You’ve grounded them, taken screens away, lectured until you’re blue. Nothing changes. The same battles repeat tomorrow.
You just want connection
Underneath the frustration, you want to enjoy your child. You want evenings without shouting. Mornings without tears. You want your family back.
The Six-Step Programme
A complete communication system built for ADHD brains. Not louder. Not angrier. Differently.
Get Their Attention First
Move close. Say their name. Wait for eye contact. Before you speak a single word of instruction, make sure their brain is tuned in. This alone cuts repeating in half.
One Clear Instruction
Not “get ready” — that’s thirteen tasks. “Put your shoes on.” One specific, observable action. Their working memory bag is small. Pack it one item at a time.
When-Then Language
The most powerful pattern you’ll learn. “When your teeth are brushed, then we read your story.” No nagging. No arguing. Calm clarity that puts your child in control.
Catch Them Being Good
ADHD children hear 20,000 more negative comments by age twelve. Flip the ratio. Five positives for every correction. Watch cooperation bloom when they feel seen.
Reward Systems That Work
Token systems provide the external motivation ADHD brains need until internal motivation develops. Step-by-step setup. Age-specific. Proven effective.
Consequences That Teach
Immediate. Brief. Predictable. Connected to the behaviour. Plus planned ignoring, time-out done right, and scripts for every situation.
What’s Inside the Guide
Plus a 3-page cheat sheet you can stick on the fridge. Every step. Every script. At a glance. For 6am when you need it most.
The first morning I walked to him, said his name, and waited for eye contact before speaking — he actually did what I asked. First time. No shouting. I stood in the kitchen and cried.Thandi M.
Stop Shouting. Start Connecting.
Download the complete guide tonight. Use the first script tomorrow morning. Feel the difference by the weekend.
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